“Waiting hurts. Forgetting hurts. But not knowing which decision to take can sometimes be the most painful...” ― José N. Harris
“Don’t make the right decision; make the decision right.” – Ellen Langer
A few weeks back, I came across an amazing blog, which encouraged people to share a photograph of all the things they will save if their house is on fire. The photographs carried various things; money, camera, books, loved ones, pets, photographs, shoes, jewellery, food, passport, cell phones - the list is endless. The collection of photographs there is a tangle of emotions, practicality and the identity of an individual.
The post got me thinking. Is it really this easy to decide on the things you want to protect when all your entire life is on fire?
Think about it. Life does put you on many crossroads where you have to make difficult choices. Love or Career? Money or Ethics? Passion or Necessity? We all have made harsh choices in the past, still make it and will be doing so in the future as well. But, how does one assess what is right, what needs to be taken along and what needs to be left behind?
It is not the decision that we fear, but we have the fear of the consequences of it thereafter.
Personally, I feel that whenever we are standing on crossroads, we already know which path to take, but endlessly keep on evaluating the consequences and finding vague answers to the big question, “what if?”
That's what messes things up.
The choices you make shape the picture of your life. Though some choices, decisions can be changed, but some are irrevocable, and if attempted to change can lead to serious repercussions. So, how does one determine which path to take? How can one ensure that a decision made today will not be regretted tomorrow? Here's how...
Before you make a decision, work on the following five pointers to ensure you are on the right track.
Listen To Your Heart
I read somewhere a funny and wise thought – Follow your heart, but remember to take your brain with you! When making a choice, when going through the ifs & buts of a decision, silence all the noises and thoughts, and listen to what your heart is telling you. I know it is difficult to separate yourself from all the emotions one experiences while making a difficult choice. But, getting a hold of your wild running emotions is necessary to make a sensible choice.
Our brain is a wonderful machine. It gives you all the right logic, but sometimes certain situations are above the practical knowledge and guidelines of what's logical. Your mind may confuse you with a lot of irrelevant logic and practicality. Trust your heart, but use your brain as well. Too many emotions or loads of logic, both lead to bad choices and decisions.
Understand Yourself Better To make Correct Decisions
Once you get a hold of your emotions, it's time for self analysis. It is really important to think about your choices with a peaceful mind and heart. Therefore, do SWOT analysis about yourself, i.e. listing down your strengths-weaknesses-opportunities-threats. This will help you a lot in knowing yourself in a different light. When you make a decision that is based on your strengths, then it becomes easier to turn every adverse situation in your favour.
Compare Your Alternatives
List down the alternatives you have with you. Take each one separately and further list down the pros and cons of attempting each of the alternatives. Then, select the alternative that best suits your own SWOT analysis. It is crucial to select a path that is in harmony with your own self and your abilities. This exercise will clear up the entire picture to a great extent. From here, making a sensible decision becomes quite easy.
Always Have A Plan B
Whenever you are in doubt regarding how well a decision will go, it is wise to develop a plan B. Here, a plan B does not mean that you are diverting from the original decision, but it is a supportive plan to ensure that your taken decision works out just fine. Many-a-times the choices we make do not work as we intended them to. In such a case, you should try the next best possible way to achieve what you desire.
Chalk Out An Emergency Plan
In other words, this is a worst case scenario plan. Here, all you need to do is imagine the worst the consequences of a decision can throw at you, and then keeping a stable and sensible mind, make a plan that will work to pull you out of the mess.
See, hoping for the best is good – it keeps you working towards a better future, but simultaneously prepare yourself for the worst that a particular situation can put you in.
Understand. It is not about whether a decision is right or wrong. The consequences make a decision right or wrong. Work upon the consequences, put in your heart and soul to get the results you want. Once, you get the desired outcomes, the decision becomes right naturally.